It was a warm evening, summer was about to began that month. The mother cried in pain and was covered in sweat and there was a fear in her eyes, and a pain in her head, she cursed all bad words she knew to distract herself from the pain she had, she even tried to bit her own palms, and all her relatives stood outside her house once they knew she is about to give birth. She was surrounded by her mother and her sisters and some old women who had practise in handling such situations and the husband’s was not allowed to see their wives that time. It was believed that a woman give birth can only be witnessed by another group of women, but the logic behind that was simply nothing.
Men were strictly prohibited to know what a woman goes through in her life, most of the men never knew their wife’s period date, or when to have sex or any proper knowledge on how to handle a woman or about her ovulation period. It was believed if men knew what a women go through they might be more sympathetic and supportive to women. It was even believed that time, those men that was supportive to their wives are considered very less of a man.
Men were taught to dominate woman and should never be submissive and stay brave, that was their only sign of being a guy. They never allowed a woman next to them during their period time. Women were treated as a cursed being, and sadly this practise still exist. After their period men are allowed to have sex with their wife. They don’t care about the ovulation period, it was simply a game played everyday and woman were the field. According to them having good sex everyday will make a women pregnant. Men was not taught how to handle a woman and they didn’t had internet to watch a softcore movies and they didn’t had a sex education either, all of these were only been heard as fantasy when they were young.
On the first month after a women gets married if they didn’t show the symptom of getting pregnant like a delay in their period, they were treated as an infertile women, men were never blamed during that period, men had issues since early ages, but still it was always the women. As all men were believed as just healthy men, men have to work, marry, give birth to kids as many as they wanted and earn until they die and that was their only purpose of life. Some were not part of this pack of sheep and those are the one that had made wonders and creations.
On the other side a woman goes through severe depression before she gets pregnant, if she doesnt get pregnant on the first month they wait for next month too, the entire family would be the talk of their village. Under all these pressure, a woman got pregnant. The two souls had formed an another soul. This new soul would never knew what their parents had gone through or the culture that will be taught to this kid or the responsiblity this kid had based on its gender.
The soul was ready to inhale it’s first air on earth. Everyone’s prayers were both the kid and the mother should be safe. It was a situation where they performed a child birth at home. No medical assistance, just some old women around a child birth to happen, no c section just natural birth else a c section without local anaesthetic will be performed. Around 3:30 pm the child has came out, it took its first breath, people eyes were wide and full of smiles, because it was a boy child, if it was a girl child, we would have witnessed only disappointment on their faces. The child cried and shook it’s hand and legs as it came out from the water with the blood marks and the umbilical cord was still there, in moments it gets cut off.
A child, A Life has entered this earth.
The Beginning… part 1 to be continued
Millions of years ago, it was even worse. Before you decide you take your life away think about your Mom, grand mom and your great grand mom that had suffered so much to give a life so that you are here today breathing. The story differs based on the region, but the pain is same, a life has not come easy. Don’t suffocate with your thoughts, the pain you go through can never be compared with a woman giving birth. We all are here in a short journey. Let’s detox away all our negative thoughts and show some respect to our life and be kind to every single living being, be it blind, black, white, handicapped, weird, sick etc., no matter what a life is still a life, show some respect.
Dedicated for World Mental health day.